To have a lasting marriage and lasting career only requires adding one word to your daily routine “desire”.
You may say these days this generation’s desire has increased 10 fold then previous generations. Look at all the stuff that has been accumulated and the need to want a better career, to want more equal opportunities, to want a better lifestyle. If you look closer there are two words that are used quite interchangeably, they are the words, “desire” and “want”. These two words at first hearing them, seem to sound like they mean the same thing but digging deeper, each has a very different connotation that will impact the way you see yourself and life.
If you don’t pay attention and use the word “want” in your daily routine you set yourself up subconsciously to focus on something that is lacking in your life. When you put an emphasis on something lacking in your life, it draws more of that to your life. This wanting is only wishful thinking because wishful thinking mostly leads to frustrations and nothing to show for it.
Having a “desire” on the other hand is having a strong feeling attached to it that creates motivation, momentum and focuses on the presence of something or need to add on something. It is the opposite of “want”. Having a “desire” and using it in your daily routine, will trigger your subconscious to attract more to your life, instead of seeing what is lacking/missing in your life.
Circling back, you can now say that this generation’s desire has not increased 10 fold but has actually decreased. With a decrease in desire and an increase in want, we start to look outward for support and approval instead of inward. Often times we feel a sense of emptiness and not being fulfilled no matter how much we get paid, how much equality we get and how much better our lifestyle becomes. This outward focusing of wants will always have you feeling a lack of something. To begin to feel content, we must start to turn our wants into desires. Desires, makes us look inward and fuels creativity, pushes you out of your comfort zone and makes you attain the impossible. When you are able to do that, you will begin to see life in a whole new way. You become more content with your spouse because you no longer see that the marriage is lacking something but you will want to bring more into the marriage. With your career, you will not blame the boss or company for why you are not promoted or getting paid more, instead you will want to add more value to the job and company, by making yourself indispensable so that you can make an impact to the company, eventually the promotion will follow.