Desires, is it a good or bad thing?

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To have a lasting marriage and lasting career only requires adding one word to your daily routine “desire”.  

You may say these days this generation’s desire has increased 10 fold then previous generations.   Look at all the stuff that has been accumulated and the need to want a better career, to want more equal opportunities, to want a better lifestyle.  If you look closer there are two words that are used quite interchangeably, they are the words, “desire” and “want”. These two words at first hearing them, seem to sound like they mean the same thing but digging deeper, each has a very different connotation that will impact the way you see yourself and life.

If you don’t pay attention and use the word “want” in your daily routine  you set yourself up subconsciously to focus on something that is lacking in your life.  When you put an emphasis on something lacking in your life, it draws more of that to your life.  This wanting is only wishful thinking because wishful thinking mostly leads to frustrations and nothing to show for it.

Having a “desire” on the other hand is having a strong feeling attached to it that creates motivation, momentum and focuses on the presence of something or need to add on something.  It is the opposite of “want”. Having a “desire” and using it in your daily routine, will trigger your subconscious to attract more to your life, instead of seeing what is lacking/missing in your life.

Circling back,  you can now say that this generation’s desire has not increased 10 fold but has actually decreased.  With a decrease in desire and an increase in want, we start to look outward for support and approval instead of inward.  Often times we feel a sense of emptiness and not being fulfilled no matter how much we get paid, how much equality we get and how much better our lifestyle becomes. This outward focusing of wants will always have you  feeling a lack of something. To begin to feel content, we must start to turn our wants into desires. Desires, makes us look inward and fuels creativity, pushes you out of your comfort zone and makes you attain the impossible.  When you are able to do that, you will begin to see life in a whole new way.  You become more content with your spouse because you no longer see that the marriage is lacking something but you will want to bring more into the marriage.  With your career, you will not blame the boss or company for why you are not promoted or getting paid more, instead you will want to add more value to the job and company, by making yourself indispensable so that you can make an impact to the company, eventually the promotion will follow.

 

 

Seeing With Your Heart

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Seeing with your heart and not your eyes is something we must practice over and over again. Let us take a look into the apple industry.  It is interesting when you watch how apples are picked, cleaned and packed for selling to consumers. Every apple is harvested from the farm but only a few make it down the conveyor belt and into our grocery store.  Only the unblemished ones are picked. This same process is replicated in every Industry. We never think much of what happens to the apples that don’t make it to the grocery store. Rarely do most of us care about the bad apples, we only seem to care about the ones that are best in its class.  

Surprisingly, the bad apples do have a special place, some are sold at discount grocery stores for less due to their imperfections, some are crushed and turned into applesauce, some are juiced to make apple juice or used to make  ingredients to other food preparation. There are so many things these imperfect apples can be used for.

You can see that your eyes can trick you most of the time, making you think that only the best, the new and the perfect things in life are the ones that make a difference and are beneficial for you.  From our insight in the apple industry, imperfect things sometimes are the hidden gems that makes life a bit more interesting and actually adds to life’s fullness. Instead of only thinking that the perfect car, the perfect house, the perfect job or even the perfect spouse can make your life better, think of how you can use those little flaws and imperfections to its advantage.  Knowing how to do this will make your life more interesting and fulfilled. When we start seeing with our hearts and less with our eyes, we will begin to see beauty, benefits and value in things, people, and circumstances we would overlook with our eyes.  Build your heart muscle so you can see more clear.

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“The real voyage of discovery consists

not in seeking new lands but seeing with new eyes“

-Marcel Proust-

Sacrificing coffee, can it reconnect you emotionally and spiritually?

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Beautiful pastel colors of pink, blue, peach and yellow are seen outside with Spring in full bloom.  In the next few days some of us will be dressed in our Sunday best and have lunch or dinner with family and good friends for the celebration of Easter.  

The conversations will be quite interesting, from telling stories of how we did our 40 days fast from anything indulgent, such as coffee, chocolate, junk food, web surfing,  social media, to even texting. Stories of how it felt like to be a Vegetarian for a day on Fridays and stories of how hard it was to offer forgiveness to someone we have been holding a grudge to. All these so call sacrifices we did leading up to this big Easter celebration makes us ask the question ask why? As in our previous blog post, having to fast and sacrifice certain things for a short period of time brings clarity  and it also helps reconnect us with our true self. Choosing to have a deeper connection with your true self emotionally,mentally, and spiritually gives you an insight to the abilities you can have and the changes that can take place to transform your life. You learn to get rid of old habits and gain better ones.

This Sunday, as we sit and feast on chocolate covered eggs, colorful hard boiled eggs, juicy baked spiral ham with roasted vegetables and a side of your favorite cocktail, we remember to celebrate life and all the miraculous things that can happen even after a storm, a flood, a disease, or even after death.  Celebrate your life everyday with a new perspective.

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“Every day of your life is a special occasion.”- Thomas Monson

Wellness Wednesday- Personal Culture

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Building a good  work culture is a vital part of any business. It will define a company and how well the employees will work  with one another and how well they will treat their customers. By having a good work culture it helps create a thriving business.  This goes true for your personal life. Having a good culture within the family and your marriage is necessary to have a long lasting marriage and a fun and loving family relationship.  You can say the culture in your personal life may take a little more work because your family and spouse will be in your life a lot longer than your job/career. Taking time out to do the little things for one another to let them know that you care is the first step in building a good culture in your personal life.  You don’t always have to give a big gift only on their birthday or Christmas but show your love for them throughout the year. Creating a loving personal culture within your family and spouse requires your time and most important your attention. Don’t let everyday routines or extracurricular activities be an excuse to not connect with one another.  When you are in each other’s company, make the most out of it. Learn to love each other’s differences. Though sometimes disagreements and different viewpoints will surface during a conversation, this is a time to show patience and understanding. Each of us will walk through life faced with challenges and thrown a curved ball here and there but if our family and spouse are able to be there and be our support system, then we will always be able to dust ourselves off and get back up.

 

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“It’s not how big your house is, but it’s how happy the home is”