In this day and age we try so hard to simplify our lives by buying up time. Things change in a moments notice, yet we have made it more complicated by simplifying so much we misunderstand one another. With more time, we only give time to things that are not impactful. When things tend to be simple and made easy, we forget how to push and challenge ourselves to do better in communicating with one another, When we don’t stretch our character and abilities, we lose the will and purpose of life. Life then becomes mundane and not so interesting and we turn outwards to others for happiness instead of being able to turn inward to find happiness. Life is made simple when we let go of any “overindulgence”, and that includes “time”.
Wellness Wednesday – Welcome 2018
Happy 2018!
Last year was a year full of surprises in so many ways. Most of us are still recovering and trying to make sense of all the events. Sometimes trying to make sense of what cannot be explained can be frustrating. Life is full of surprises all the time and when things cannot be explained with human reasoning we just have to have Faith and let Faith do the explaining. With the hustle and bustle of the holiday season winding down, we can catch our breath and have a brief moment of stillness. Take advantage of this stillness to do a mind and body detox. Get rid of things or thoughts that are making you restless so that your mind and body can have space to be filled with things that motivates you and create change in you and others.
~Places to go to extend your stillness in 2018~
Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden
Moma Modern Museum of Art
Portugese Bend, Palos Verdes, CA
Hammocks Beach, North Carolina
Wellness Wednesday- How to be Thankful when life is not fair
With Thanksgiving just 1 day from today, we are often soul searching to find what we are thankful for. To some, Thanksgiving is a holiday to get together, watch football, and eat a feast and go shopping for the special deals in the store and online and nothing more. For those who want more of a deeper meaning to Thanksgiving, we have to begin with ourselves.
To be thankful, you have to put yourself in a position to feel joy, happiness and contentment no matter what situation you are in. We are not only thankful when have a great job/career that give us a lavish lifestyle and everything is running smoothly in our lives but can we be thankful when we lose our job/career, when we become homeless, been hit with an illness or been hurt by others?
When life is good, it is easy to be thankful and be happy but real gratefulness begins when we are in the deepest, and darkest part of life and from the outside there is nothing to be thankful for. Instead of giving in to the despair and losing hope because we cannot change the situation we are in, we are then challenged to only change ourselves and not the situation. By changing ourselves, we find true joy, happiness and contentment. Tomorrow, when we sit at the table for Thanksgiving, be thankful knowing that your situation does not define you as a person but what defines you is your character to be truthful to yourself and to others. You are not define by what others think and say about you or what material things you have. Having hope and faith, you will soon see the glimmer of light amidst the darkness. It is then you are able to feel what true thanksgiving is all about.
Once you change yourself, your situation will soon change along with it. Just like a star in the night sky, it can only shine and be seen by the human eyes when the sky is clear and is not blocked by man-made structures.
Wellness Wednesday- Gentleness can save a relationship
A gentle and quiet spirit is often time taken for granted. In a world that is so busy and full of noise, being loud, pushy and harsh takes center stage. The need to stand out and be heard is today’s motto. We as a society have forgotten what it means to be still and have a gentle and tenderness towards one another. This unforgiving and demanding character has rubbed off on us and has over flowed into our personal lives and the relationship we have with our family and spouse.
We avoid being gentle and tenderhearted fearing that it may appear to others that we are weak and vulnerable. In a relationship over time we tend to say harsh words to one another to show how much strength we have and how strong we stand behind our beliefs. The tendency to be gentle has slowly faded as time passes. We forget how to give in to one another, even when the other person is wrong; instead we stand our ground as long as we can. Expressing gentleness is actually the opposite of what we may think; gentleness shows a sign of self control, strength and self awareness and not weakness and vulnerability. Learning to express gentleness in many ways increases understanding and forgiveness in a relationship. Choose to be an uplifting spirit rather than a spirit crusher.