Becoming Pioneers in our relationship

Posted on by tracy

The century old word “pioneer” is often associated with people who were faced with physical and mental hardship, leaving behind things they loved and cherish to explore and stake claim to uncharted lands.  The word “pioneer” today, still holds true to it’s century old connotation of making claim to something new and unknown, but we seldom want to experience what a pioneer has to endure but rather want to receive the reward only.

The concept of being a “pioneer” in a relationship can bring a new perspective to couples today.  With the technology at the forefront of our everyday transaction, building our relationships with one another has become more of a data driven experience than a human experience.  All our transactions are becoming predictable and quantifiable, making no room for spontaneity and not welcoming the unexpected. It is more difficult nowadays to stay real and connected to one another.  We are less tolerant of one another and less dependent on one another for happiness, love or just the basic needs and emotions. By adopting the “pioneer” perspective in a relationship, each person can have a spirit of Hope to begin to journey into marriage life knowing that the journey will not always be calculated and quantifiable but a need to trust and rely on one another. With hope guiding the relationship, hardships can be endured and overcome when faced with the unknown and the unpredictable.  Becoming a pioneer in a relationship builds character, it builds a home and a family that is unshakable. In this day and age we need our families to be unshakable.

Give your relationship a jolt of unshakable “Hope”.  

Let Hope guide you in your relationship. 

Wear it to show your love for one another.  

 

Using White Noise As Your Muse

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As we sit relaxing inside one of our usual  coffee shop in the late afternoon, trying to get out of the summer heat to enjoy the cool air conditioned air, we routinely have our lattes and laptop ready to do some work.  What was unnoticeable at first is very apparent when you really start to look around the the coffee shop. To the right you can see a few single individuals who all have earphones plugged in their ears and are tuned out of their surrounding, yet to the left are a group of people who are enthralled in a conversation of screenwriting and story telling of the scene they are putting together in a movie/episode( California Coffee Shops).   Yes, this image you have seen on TV does really exist here in LA.

The coffee shop is an anomaly by itself not just in California but in any location.  It is able to bring forth creative work in people and yet allow people to meet and catch up with old friends for community and also as a place of refuge for some to unwind and get away from reality.

With our laptop and smartphone near us, we filter the outside world away and seem to be inside our own bubble.  Ironically, the coffee shop is full of noise, with the pounding sound of the barista trying to get the coffee grinds out to the shushing of the espresso machine heating up the milk, all this background noise inside the coffee shop has become the “white noise” that we allow to soothe us and somehow fuel or creativity and yet calms our inner soul. It is quite a paradoxical experience.  This may be why we are so drawn to coffee shops, beside the addictive nature of the coffee itself, the atmosphere has become a kind of space where we can express ourselves.

In life, all we really want to do is to be ourselves and express ourselves with purity  Just like the coffee shop experience, we find ourselves trying to be creative and find a space of our own to calm our inner soul but we too often don’t learn to block out the noise that is all around us.  Instead we let the noise, whether it manifest itself as social approval or gossips in our life , we let it distract us from producing and creating our best work and it keeps us from finding peace and calmness within ourselves.  It is knowing how to find a way to block out the loud noise around us that we are able to use this noise as our “white noise” to our advantage. Learning how to transform a distraction into a type of “focus” is a great skill we will need to do in this age of technology we live in.  Don’t let the distractions be a crutch we must carry every day but let the noise around us be the “white noise” or “muse” to propel us forward everyday.

 

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The “transparency” syndrome- Is really what you see is what you get?

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What you see is what you get.  In today’s lingo, we term it “transparency”, especially in the digital space, this term is valued highly.  Being transparent does have its benefits such as knowing what you are getting at face value, but this face value can also trap us from getting the full benefit of what a  person can offer. Just like good wine, the taste becomes more complex, denser and full of depth when it is aged for a specific time and paired with specific food. If we were just to judge wine on it’s simple characters, you would not know the depth of its value.  Technically wine would be no different than drinking grape juice.

Just like good wine, we need to be open to the idea that people are not all created the same way.  We cannot judge each other based on face value. Each one of us are shaped and flawed purposefully so that our best work can be extracted and made complete from these flaws.  In a world where everything is being controlled by AI, we don’t leave room for errors. It is through these trials and errors where true genius can be created. Learning to keep a balance between transparency and mystery makes for more “Aha moments” in life.  With the onset of more “Aha moments” we get to be more insightful in solving more complex problems and issues faster and giving what may appear simple and flawed a chance to be something valuable in the future.  We have to learn to be instruments of peace, and love in order to find true transparency that doesn’t hold anything back but delivers truth that goes beyond different industries and cultures.

A good wine always brings together friends and family to celebrate life and unwind.  Grab a bottle of Pinot Noir or Chardonnay and enjoy the summer nights with good company.  Pair it with our custom engraved Wine Glass

Can your community build your Self-Worth?

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Over the last decade, many changes have taken place that has affected how we develop close relationships with one another and how we keep those bonds strong.  With the emergence of the internet and social media, we learn to make connections faster and become more responsive. In today’s world, we are constantly connected in some ways or another by our online virtual communities or our physical small group communities.  Our circle of influence may seem quite large and expansive but as we take a deeper look inward within ourselves and look at our position in these communities, we soon discover that we may not have a strong psychological connection to them as we may think.

 

Motherhood is a time in a women’s life that a real sense of community is needed most.  Going through this life changing stage transforms a women’s role at home and in public.  It is one of the life stages that will have many challenges and uncertainties that will test our endurance, our decision making skills and our self worth.  We must choose to find family members, friends and mentors that will have a positive influence in our motherhood journey. There are a lot of advice coming from all different directions telling us how to raise our kids and how to be a better mom but we found that there are 3 powerful principles that can direct us in finding the right community or  #TrueFam that will lead us to find our #TrueSelf.

 

In our search for a sense of deeper connection and understanding, we must first look for people who believe that life has a bigger purpose than just you and me. Life is shaped by something greater than us.  Motherhood certainly shows us that the birth of a baby is a miracle in itself and that we alone are not responsible for this miracle. If we believe that there is creator that made us and the world we live in, then we will never be alone and will always have someone by our side during challenging times.  He will lift us when things get tough and give us strength to endure the impossible. With hope in our hearts, we will feel a sense of purpose in life.

Secondly, we must do things that will make us happy.  Being a mom is hard work but at the same time very fulfilling.  We must learn to listen to our inner voice to what feels right even when friends and families tell us otherwise.  Many times we force ourselves to do things and make decisions that does not make us happy at the end because we did it for monetary reasons or did to make others happy.  If we continually choose to find people, experiences or things that are toxic to our life, it will eventually affect our overall happiness. Choose to find things that creates value in our life and find people who are role models by paving a path for us in the right direction.

Lastly, believe that “everything you need is within you”.   We are all born with great potentials but we seldom use 100% of that potential.  Mothers have the great potential to be leaders of their communities and educators to their children about life.  It us up to us to choose what path we want to take. If we learn to seek inwardly instead of outwardly for happiness and fulfillment, we can unlock the rest of our potential and become a better version of ourselves with the passing of each day.  Knowing that we have this power can help us understand what is possible and in turn help others that are going through the same thing.

As a Mom of 5 and co-founder of www.hansonellis.com since 1999,  I have faced many challenges.   Every day I have to consciously jungle my work life and my family life.  Learning to find fulfillment when things don’t go the way it should and still be able to stand up tall and face another day with a smile is a choice I learn we make. These principles guide us in the right direction in finding our #TrueFam.   It is when we understand our inner self, we enable ourselves to reach out and enrich our life to connect at a deeper level. We no longer look for a membership number but become the “community” and live out the community experience with authenticity. One of the communities that has developed a #TrueFam is True and Co. Their sense of community and creative ways makes a women feel beautiful.  

Life is a cycle that requires us to keep evolving and changing within our communities.  Once we say we have arrived and made it, it is a sign that we have stopped learning and experiencing life at its fullest.  Always Live Better, Love better and Pass it on and Celebrate Life with Love, Trust, Faith.