Have you ever been in line at a grocery and the the line is extremely long and you are trying your best to wait patiently to reach the cashier? To make things worst, you only have a few items to buy. Your patience is beginning to be tested. In front of you, you can’t help but notice a man who has about the same amount of grocery items as you but seems to be completely content and happy about waiting in line. He even strikes up conversation with people around him and starts to make them smile and some even laugh. What is the secret that this man has that so many of us want a piece of? It is his happy and positive attitude that he expresses and how he handles his environment around him. He’s not wealthy or young and you can say at first impression that he has been there, seen it, ,done that. Maybe that is why he is so happy. Actually just because you have been there, seen it, done that does not make you a happy and content person, it may make you more cynical at times instead. The secret formula is how he is personalizating his own happiness and not letting his situation create the happiness for him.
Being able to personalize your own happiness requires you to let a piece of yourself go. To not be consumed in your own emotions but be able to enjoy the moment as it is without putting your own needs and wants into it. By practicing that, you begin to see the needs and wants of others more and will want to make the environment or situation you are in more comforting for others. You will look for a resolution to the problem rather than focusing on the problem itself. Begin to personalize your own happiness by seeing value in others, your environment. See what you can contribute to the situation instead of what you can get out of it. No one will be able to take away your happiness except you. Next time you are in line at the grocery store, be that person who is personalizing his/her own happiness.